I agree that claiming to have mastered something is quite likely arrogant. I don’t know how good Tynan is, but I think his point is that he has made pickup a habit, and doesn’t need constant practice to be good (frankly I suspect that practice is necessary to keep a high level of skill, but maybe he doesn’t need a high level of skill for what he does, or gets enough practice in daily life). But I am going to use your example to have a quick rant on using malcolm gladwell as a source. Please don’t take personal offense, but this has been annoying me for sometime. Malcolm Gladwell writes compelling books that take something that seems unlikely a first glance, but is common sense on the second, and “proves” it through entertaining anecdotes. He is not scientific. So please don’t use his rules of thumb as some sort of proof. The 10000 hours is the perfect example of abuse. Professions and skills are so diverse, and of such different complexities, that giving a set time to master them is ridiculous. Even Gladwell didn’t intend the 10000 hour rule to be more than a general estimate. Now people act like that is some sort of hard and fast level you have to achieve to be an “expert” (however that is quantified). All he really did in outliers was give a lot of examples of how some people got lucky, and took advantage of it by practicing a lot. Wow: practice makes perfect. Luck is important. Great insight there. Okay bile spewing over. Just please don’t act like Gladwell has proven something or done anything other than bring attention to some interesting if obvious phenomena.

More radical honesty: Sometimes your blog is preachy and you sound like you know it all. Your proclamations about becoming an internet poker pro and quick dismissal of any warnings being a prime example. From the Barry Kirkey show it sounds as if the Project Hollywood glory days were greatly embellished and it was mainly a huge cockfarm.

HOWEVER, your ebook was FANTASTIC. There is a lot of PU material out there, A LOT of great info, A LOT of crap. If someone came to me and asked for dating help I’d say read Tynans book and NOTHING ELSE. Not that there is nothing else good out there, but having too much info is as bad as having too little. If Ty’s book doesn’t help you nothing will.

Tynan

A man’s job is to nurture and care for a woman to build her up, not exploit damaged and vulnerable women and cut them down with cheap mind games for sex. You write with the attitude of someone who is wise and experienced, but you know very little. I see a scared little man with no knowledge of self, who is convinced he has it all figured out. White people have a long way to go if they ever want to achieve salvation.

I’ve been tempted to delete it for a few days, but think it’s a dishonest thing to do.

Tynan

in outliers, malcolm gladwell writes its a scientific fact you need at least 10,000 hours to obtain MASTERY in any activity. there is no way any of you guys except possibly mystery have hit the 10k hour mark talking to girls. yet you all claim complete and total social mastery with women. its laughable.